It really isn’t you, it’s them…Which isn’t to say that commitment-phobes don’t deserve some sympathy.
Men and women with commitment issues tend to have a deep fear of intimacy, and their feelings are borne of a learnt negative opinion of love and relationships.
Ask yourself: Commitment-phobes are the ones who don’t introduce you to their friends or family.
They’re the ones who almost never have you over to their apartment.
Usually the art of pushing and pulling and seduction are the domain of the commitment “phobe.” The answer dwells deeply in the family of origin survival patterns. People who are commitment phobic feel they need to cut off their feelings after a certain point of knowing someone as a means of feeling in control and feeling emotionally protected.You've given it time to see if these feelings are constant, rather than a one off occurrence. Every mention of the word or concept of commitment elicits a frenzied response from her side.It now seems only logical to want to take things to the next level. She makes excuses and wants more space out of nowhere.Relationships aren’t about taking away freedom, they’re about enhancing your life by including people who make it easier to live life day-to-day. Another common train of thought by men who don’t want relationships is that they don’t want to be with the same woman for decades because of the fact that she’ll age and not look as good in 10 years.Well, here’s the funny thing they forget: men age, too.There are too many guys out there who just don’t want a commitment, and as a woman who wants a relationship, I can’t help but think that their attitude towards serious love is stupid.